Pacific Couples Blog
Personal Note: I Missed My Midlife Crisis
I’ve jokingly called it my mid-life crisis hair, but it’s not really a joke.
Briefly Noted: What My Son’s Two Social Groups Reveal About Gender and Friendship
It reminded me of conversations we’ve been having lately about male isolation and female kinkeeping.
Briefly Noted: If therapy were just talking, I wouldn’t do it.
I routinely refer clients out when they just want to talk.
Briefly Noted: Another Reason Men Avoid the Mental Load
It’s made up of tasks that are both low-status and low-ownership for men
Briefly Noted: Shaming Men Doesn’t Work
If shame really worked, our culture would already look healthier, and our relationships would already feel easier.
Briefly Noted: Pop Evo Psych Isn’t Science
It flattens complexity and obscures real sexual dimorphism with sweeping, essentialist myths.
July Reading Roundup
Emotional Patterns, Gender Myths, and the Invisible Threads of Our Relationships
He’s Not Lazy. She’s Not Crazy.
The emotional math of equity and energy in high-functioning couples.
And Now a Word from Our Sponsor (It’s Just Me)
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