Pacific Couples Blog
Briefly Noted: My Wife Doesn’t Understand Me (and It's Fine)
Understanding isn’t everything.
Is Couples Therapy Biased Against Men?
But by the time I’d gotten a half-dozen like that, I started to wonder if I was missing something.
Briefly Noted: Children of the Breakup Feed
The internet is full of relationship autopsies.
Briefly Noted: The Myth of Rationality
We may think of ourselves as primarily rational, but that’s not what the science shows.
Briefly Noted: Substack’s Safety Debate is Really about Something Deeper
Substack isn’t a newsletter anymore.
February Reading Roundup
The cultural conversation around relationships has gotten louder.
Briefly Noted: The Hospital on the Hill
A training experience in the remains of a psychiatric city.
Briefly Noted: Before We Call Empathy Feminine
The data may not say what we think they do.
Stop Criticizing and Start Complaining
In most relationships, it’s not the issue itself that does damage. It’s the way we bring it up.
So You Married a Feminist
High-functioning men are finding themselves on the receiving end of a criticism they don’t understand.
Briefly Noted: Neopathonyms
I’ve started calling these invented emotion words neopathonyms, like neologisms, but for feelings.
Briefly Noted: Ask for What You Want—and Rejoice in the No
Knowing someone’s limits can be a blessing.
Holiday Rituals and Everyday Moments
Rituals of connection, whether daily or seasonal, are powerful tools for maintaining closeness in a relationship.
November Reading Roundup
This month’s theme: subtle habits that corrode connection and the emotional patterns we might not notice.
How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season
The holidays are meant to be a time of joy and togetherness, but they can also bring plenty of stress.