Pacific Couples Blog
Holiday Rituals and Everyday Moments
Rituals of connection, whether daily or seasonal, are powerful tools for maintaining closeness in a relationship.
November Reading Roundup
This month’s theme: subtle habits that corrode connection and the emotional patterns we might not notice.
How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season
The holidays are meant to be a time of joy and togetherness, but they can also bring plenty of stress.
Briefly Noted: Know Your Counterfactuals
The easiest way to generate negative emotion is to ruminate.
Personal Note: I Missed My Midlife Crisis
I’ve jokingly called it my mid-life crisis hair, but it’s not really a joke.
Briefly Noted: What My Son’s Two Social Groups Reveal About Gender and Friendship
It reminded me of conversations we’ve been having lately about male isolation and female kinkeeping.
Briefly Noted: If therapy were just talking, I wouldn’t do it.
I routinely refer clients out when they just want to talk.
Briefly Noted: Another Reason Men Avoid the Mental Load
It’s made up of tasks that are both low-status and low-ownership for men
Briefly Noted: Shaming Men Doesn’t Work
If shame really worked, our culture would already look healthier, and our relationships would already feel easier.
Briefly Noted: Pop Evo Psych Isn’t Science
It flattens complexity and obscures real sexual dimorphism with sweeping, essentialist myths.
