Pacific Couples Blog
So You Married a Feminist
High-functioning men are finding themselves on the receiving end of a criticism they don’t understand.
Briefly Noted: Neopathonyms
I’ve started calling these invented emotion words neopathonyms, like neologisms, but for feelings.
Holiday Rituals and Everyday Moments
Rituals of connection, whether daily or seasonal, are powerful tools for maintaining closeness in a relationship.
November Reading Roundup
This month’s theme: subtle habits that corrode connection and the emotional patterns we might not notice.
How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season
The holidays are meant to be a time of joy and togetherness, but they can also bring plenty of stress.
Briefly Noted: Know Your Counterfactuals
The easiest way to generate negative emotion is to ruminate.
Personal Note: I Missed My Midlife Crisis
I’ve jokingly called it my mid-life crisis hair, but it’s not really a joke.
Briefly Noted: What My Son’s Two Social Groups Reveal About Gender and Friendship
It reminded me of conversations we’ve been having lately about male isolation and female kinkeeping.
Briefly Noted: If therapy were just talking, I wouldn’t do it.
I routinely refer clients out when they just want to talk.

