Pacific Couples Blog
How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season
Create a holiday season full of connection, not tension.
Combining the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy
Here is a brief analysis of how I see these two approaches working together.
Four Communication Behaviors That Can Kill Your Marriage
How to identify and eliminate the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.
How to Compromise Like a Pro
Compromise means identifying your core needs, not giving them up.
Transforming Conflict into Connection: The Power of Repair
Successful repair attempts can prevent conflicts from escalating, foster emotional connection, and build resilience in a relationship.
How to Solve Unsolvable Relationship Problems
In the Gottman world, we say “when you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems.”
What is Co-Parenting Therapy?
Co-parenting therapy is a specialized form of couples therapy designed to help separated or divorced parents navigate the complexities of raising children together.
Navigating Different Parenting Styles
When couples have different parenting styles, it can create tension and conflict within the relationship and stress for the children.
Navigating Family and In-Law Problems
Relationships with in-laws and extended family members can be both a source of joy and a minefield.
Can a Marriage Work if You Have Different Values?
Our culture tells us that a healthy relationship is a journey of shared dreams and aspirations, but most couples will discover that they have some amount divergent goals, values, or aspirations. What to do?
How to Deal with Relationship Compatibility Problems
Research has shown that compatibility doesn’t explain the difference between happy and unhappy couples.
Can this Marriage be Saved?
How do I know if saving this relationship is worth the effort?
What to Do about Unsolvable Relationship Problems
According to the Gottman Institute, sixty-nine percent of relationship conflict is caused by unsolvable problems, problems that are fundamental to the couple and are never going to go away.
Is Relationship Coaching Worth It?
What is a relationship coach, how much do they cost, and are they worth the money?
Signs of a Healthy Relationship: The Sound Relationship House
The Sound Relationship House provides couples with a comprehensive framework for building and maintaining a healthy, fulfilling partnership.
Empirically Supported Marital and Couples Therapies
What are the main empirically supported couples therapies and how do they work?
Communication in Marriage Part 3: How to Dissolve a Negative State of Mind
How to dissolve a bad feeling, a bad mood, anger, anxiety, depression – you name it.
Communication in Marriage Part 2: Feeling is Believing
How we feel is what determines the reality we experience, not the other way around.
Communication in Marriage Part 1: How to Talk about Your Feelings
To solve the real problem, we have to start with the deeper issue: misunderstood, mismanaged, and miscommunicated feelings.