Pacific Couples Blog
You’re Not Losing, Bruh—You’re Listening
Accepting influence: the relationship power move you haven’t tried.
Don’t Let Emotional Flooding Swamp Your Conversations
Keep calm and carry on. If you can’t, take a break.
Valentine’s Day: A Straightforward Guide to Showing Up
Because ignoring it probably won’t work.
You’re Arguing All Wrong
How the Gottman-Rapoport procedure transforms conflict into connection.
How to Revive the Spark
Has your relationship lost its luster? It doesn’t have to stay that way.
Family Feuds and Holiday Cheers
Eight ways to avoid drama and keep your relationship strong this holiday season.
Holiday Rituals and Everyday Moments
Simple, Meaningful Traditions to Keep Your Connection Strong
How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season
Create a holiday season full of connection, not tension.
Combining the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy
Here is a brief analysis of how I see these two approaches working together.
Four Communication Behaviors That Can Kill Your Marriage
How to identify and eliminate the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.
How to Compromise Like a Pro
Compromise means identifying your core needs, not giving them up.
Transforming Conflict into Connection: The Power of Repair
Successful repair attempts can prevent conflicts from escalating, foster emotional connection, and build resilience in a relationship.
How to Solve Unsolvable Relationship Problems
In the Gottman world, we say “when you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems.”