How to Choose a Couples Therapist

Pacific Couples Blog

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How to Choose a Couples Therapist

Due diligence in four steps and six red flags.

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May Reading Roundup

Breaking the Silence, Seeing the Signs, and Finding Hidden Meanings

Emotional Realities Part 5: Practice and Integration

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Emotional Realities Part 5: Practice and Integration

Three practices to help you build clarity, reduce reactivity, and stay connected.

Emotional Realities Part 4: Two Realities

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Emotional Realities Part 4: Two Realities

Why sharing a moment doesn’t mean sharing a reality.

Emotional Realities Part 3: Feeling is Believing

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Emotional Realities Part 3: Feeling is Believing

How to step outside your emotional story and see clearly again.

Emotional Realities Part 2: Affective Realism

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Emotional Realities Part 2: Affective Realism

How feelings drive our perceptions—and why it’s so convincing.

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Emotional Realities

How feelings shape our perceptions, beliefs, and relationships.

You’re Not Losing, Bruh—You’re Listening

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You’re Not Losing, Bruh—You’re Listening

Accepting influence: the relationship power move you haven’t tried.

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April Reading Roundup

Gender, Anger, AI, and the Quiet Power of Logging Off

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Advanced Listening Skills

How to be a great listener, even when emotions run high.

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Six Magic Hours

How much time does it take to build a great relationship?

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Negative Sentiment Override

How chronic resentment hijacks conversations.

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State of the Union Meetings

Strengthen your relationship with weekly check-ins.

Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

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Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

Instead, ask: “Is there more to this?”

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Fight Smarter

The power of a gentle start-up.

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Beyond the Honeymoon Phase

How fondness and admiration trump infatuation.

Don’t Let Emotional Flooding Swamp Your Conversations

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Don’t Let Emotional Flooding Swamp Your Conversations

Keep calm and carry on. If you can’t, take a break.

Valentine’s Day: A Straightforward Guide to Showing Up

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Valentine’s Day: A Straightforward Guide to Showing Up

Because ignoring it probably won’t work.

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You’re Arguing All Wrong

How the Gottman-Rapoport procedure transforms conflict into connection.

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How to Revive the Spark

Has your relationship lost its luster? It doesn’t have to stay that way.

Tell us what’s going on. Start with a free phone consultation.